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"Why are you so careful?" Have you ever been labeled?

Time:2023-04-01 11:50:52 author:Relax Read:930次
"Why are you so careful?" Have you ever been labeled?

"Why are you so careful?" This is the mantra that everyone is accustomed to, which made a nearly 50-year-old man in Zhengzhou suffer from depression and anxiety. In our environment, whether it is campus life or workplace life, including family life, in the process of dealing with people, we will receive more or less some feedback and evaluation from others. It is a common thing that others may label us, positive or negative. Because when our brains are going to process and understand some people or things, we tend to be more concise, a process of making complexity simple. Here you can understand it as a process of labeling, a general overview. We will categorize them and organize them so that we can extract certain information faster when we go to use it and understand it again. So labeling itself is a very good function of our brain, which will help us organize the data and information we need. We will be very accustomed to making some current judgments about something, something, and a certain point of view to give our experience or knowledge. This process is a process of knowledge integration. In our interpersonal communication, we will put some labels on the experience of this relationship, such as this person's humor, cheerfulness, sunshine, or selfishness, self, these are some meanings with labels. Here, we focus on: how to look at the negative labels that others put on us? Because of the positive label, you will gladly accept it and understand it as a recognition for you. But a negative label may attack a flaw you care about, or a trait you don't want to be discovered. So we have to examine: Are the labels that others put on you really referring to you? Are you really like that? Are these things you do really what he says they are? We will form some projections in this process, and we will project some qualities we don’t want to each other, because through the form of labeling, it is like shooting bows and arrows, we need armor to resist, to resist and refute these bows and arrows themselves . Regardless of whether it is a positive or negative label, the most important thing is how we do the screening. We need to see if these labels themselves can give us enough constructiveness. If they are just abusive or flattering, they are meaningless to our personal growth and to help us understand ourselves. This is a very important function of labels for us to know ourselves and others. But in many cases, we often have a huge response to the feedback given by our superior leaders, or our parents, peers, or people we are very close to because of the relationship between the other party and us. Because it is mixed with the hierarchical rights between you and the other party at the relationship level, the feedback and labels they give you will make you feel that his words are very correct and authoritative, and it is difficult to argue. At this time, you must remind yourself that even if he has such an identity, must the judgment he gave me be true? Is it good for me? What is the stable experience behind these labels? Criticism is all of us, and each of us is a critical critic. But there is a big gap between whether we have become that excellent counselor and guide. Many times in our position, we can easily point out the shortcomings of others, but in the face of such a shortcoming and inadequacy, there is no way to help him grow and truly provide some constructive opinions, this is the key. is there. Therefore, when we deal with being criticized by others or labelled, it is very necessary to give ourselves a buffer space to reflect and think. Are his suggestions constructive? Can you help me? If not, then I can choose not to. Depression is hard, and I hope you don't take depression as a stalk. I am a psychiatrist Jiang Xueqin. I have 40 years of clinical experience in psychiatry. If you have any questions about depression, anxiety, bipolar affective disorder and other related issues, please pay attention to my headlines and leave a message. I will make time. replied.

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